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Follow Your Heart ¬----听乔布斯在斯坦福大学的演讲

2011-11-02T04:14:00Z

昨晚Eric给我发了一份邮件，内容是乔布斯2005年在斯坦福大学的演讲。他说他看了三遍，单从演讲的内容，他就决定要买一部iphone 4s手机（他之前不太了解苹果，还经常取笑我的iphone和其他苹果的产品）。是什么让他有如此大的转变呢？

接下来，我也把整个演讲看了整整三遍，一边听一边思考，想着我的童年，我的大学，我八年工作的经历，以及我未来要如何发展。

乔布斯在演讲中讲了三个故事，故事中讲到的三件事在当时的环境下看来都是“不好”或者是“倒霉”的事：大学退学，被苹果公司开除和患上癌症，然而，在若干年以后，当乔布斯回首这些事情时，却是对他一生最有帮助，甚至推动人类文明进步的大事，用他自己的话说，getting fired from Apple was the
best thing that could have ever happened to me。

我一直感觉，我们绝大部分人都是过多地相信前人或是现有的认识、科技和成果，而忽视了自身的能量，换句话说，就是高估了现今的技术和发明，低估了自身的创造力。Follow your heart 是我对乔布斯演讲的总结，也是他要表达的主题。只要保持纯净的内心，就能感知大脑深处的想法，再坚持跟着这个想法走，不要太多地受到环境的束缚，伟人就这么诞生了！

我在学习中医时看过一本吴清忠的《人体使用手册》，这本书的主要观念与乔布斯讲到的不谋而合----尽管一个是中医领域，一个是it产品领域。吴清忠对人体的多年研究发现，人体的自愈能力远远超过我们的想象，而大部分药品（尤其是西药）只是强制性地改变身体的某个指标，表面上看治了病，实际上往往是治标不治本。只是现今忙碌的社会中，我们已经很少能听到“身体的声音”了：很多人晚上11,12点还精神抖擞，一点都不觉得困，就是一个明显的例子。

从人性上讲，我不太喜欢乔布斯的偏执，但是，从创造伟大成就的方面，我感受到了（甚至从他演讲本身就能感觉到）他的努力，他甚至把每天都当成生命中的最后一天来度过，让每天都精彩绝伦（他的精彩绝伦就是要“改变世界”），他真的做到了！！

演讲的视频地址： http://tech.fortune.cnn.com/2011/10/05/the-speech-of-steve-jobs-life/ 优酷等网站也可以搜索到。

我听这个演讲还是有点吃力，附上演讲原文，供跟我一样英文不好的朋友参考：

"Thank you. I'm honored to be with you today for
your commencement from one of the finest universities in the world. Truth be
told, I never graduated from college and this is the closest I've ever gotten
to a college graduation.

Today I want to tell you three stories from my life.
That's it. No big deal. Just three stories. The first story is about connecting
the dots.

I dropped out of Reed College after the first six
months but then stayed around as a drop-in for another eighteen months or so
before I really quit. So why did I drop out? It started before I was born. My
biological mother was a young, unwed graduate student, and she decided to put
me up for adoption. She felt very strongly that I should be adopted by college
graduates, so everything was all set for me to be adopted at birth by a lawyer
and his wife, except that when I popped out, they decided at the last minute
that they really wanted a girl. So my parents, who were on a waiting list, got
a call in the middle of the night asking, "We've got an unexpected baby
boy. Do you want him?" They said, "Of course." My biological
mother found out later that my mother had never graduated from college and that
my father had never graduated from high school. She refused to sign the final
adoption papers. She only relented a few months later when my parents promised
that I would go to college.

This was the start in my life. And seventeen years
later, I did go to college, but I naïvely chose a college that was almost as
expensive as Stanford, and all of my working-class parents' savings were being
spent on my college tuition. After six months, I couldn't see the value in it.
I had no idea what I wanted to do with my life, and no idea of how college was
going to help me figure it out, and here I was, spending all the money my
parents had saved their entire life. So I decided to drop out and trust that it
would all work out OK. It was pretty scary at the time, but looking back, it
was one of the best decisions I ever made. The minute I dropped out, I could
stop taking the required classes that didn't interest me and begin dropping in
on the ones that looked far more interesting.

It wasn't all romantic. I didn't have a dorm room, so
I slept on the floor in friends' rooms. I returned Coke bottles for the
five-cent deposits to buy food with, and I would walk the seven miles across
town every Sunday night to get one good meal a week at the Hare Krishna temple.
I loved it. And much of what I stumbled into by following my curiosity and
intuition turned out to be priceless later on. Let me give you one
example.

Reed College at that time offered perhaps the best
calligraphy instruction in the country. Throughout the campus every poster,
every label on every drawer was beautifully hand-calligraphed. Because I had
dropped out and didn't have to take the normal classes, I decided to take a
calligraphy class to learn how to do this. I learned about serif and sans-serif
typefaces, about varying the amount of space between different letter
combinations, about what makes great typography great. It was beautiful,
historical, artistically subtle in a way that science can't capture, and I
found it fascinating.

None of this had even a hope of any practical
application in my life. But ten years later when we were designing the first
Macintosh computer, it all came back to me, and we designed it all into the
Mac. It was the first computer with beautiful typography. If I had never
dropped in on that single course in college, the Mac would have never had
multiple typefaces or proportionally spaced fonts, and since Windows just
copied the Mac, it's likely that no personal computer would have
them.

If I had never dropped out, I would have never dropped
in on that calligraphy class and personals computers might not have the
wonderful typography that they do.

Of course it was impossible to connect the dots
looking forward when I was in college, but it was very, very clear looking
backwards 10 years later. Again, you can't connect the dots looking forward.
You can only connect them looking backwards, so you have to trust that the dots
will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something--your gut,
destiny, life, karma, whatever--because believing that the dots will connect
down the road will give you the confidence to follow your heart, even when it
leads you off the well-worn path, and that will make all the difference.

My second story is about love and loss. I was lucky. I
found what I loved to do early in life. Woz and I started Apple in my parents'
garage when I was twenty. We worked hard and in ten years, Apple had grown from
just the two of us in a garage into a $2 billion company with over 4,000
employees. We'd just released our finest creation, the Macintosh, a year
earlier, and I'd just turned thirty, and then I got fired. How can you get
fired from a company you started? Well, as Apple grew, we hired someone who I
thought was very talented to run the company with me, and for the first year or
so, things went well. But then our visions of the future began to diverge, and
eventually we had a falling out. When we did, our board of directors sided with
him, and so at thirty, I was out, and very publicly out. What had been the
focus of my entire adult life was gone, and it was devastating. I really didn't
know what to do for a few months. I felt that I had let the previous generation
of entrepreneurs down, that I had dropped the baton as it was being passed to
me. I met with David Packard and Bob Noyce and tried to apologize for screwing
up so badly. I was a very public failure and I even thought about running away
from the Valley. But something slowly began to dawn on me. I still loved what I
did. The turn of events at Apple had not changed that one bit. I'd been
rejected but I was still in love. And so I decided to start over.

I didn't see it then, but it turned out that getting
fired from Apple was the best thing that could have ever happened to me. The
heaviness of being successful was replaced by the lightness of being a beginner
again, less sure about everything. It freed me to enter one of the most
creative periods in my life. During the next five years I started a company
named NeXT, another company named Pixar and fell in love with an amazing woman
who would become my wife. Pixar went on to create the world's first
computer-animated feature film, "Toy Story," and is now the most
successful animation studio in the world.

In a remarkable turn of events, Apple bought NeXT and
I returned to Apple and the technology we developed at NeXT is at the heart of
Apple's current renaissance, and Lorene and I have a wonderful family
together.

I'm pretty sure none of this would have happened if I
hadn't been fired from Apple. It was awful-tasting medicine but I guess the
patient needed it. Sometimes life's going to hit you in the head with a brick.
Don't lose faith. I'm convinced that the only thing that kept me going was that
I loved what I did. You've got to find what you love, and that is as true for
work as it is for your lovers. Your work is going to fill a large part of your
life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great
work, and the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven't
found it yet, keep looking, and don't settle. As with all matters of the heart,
you'll know when you find it, and like any great relationship it just gets
better and better as the years roll on. So keep looking. Don't settle.

My third story is about death. When I was 17 I read a
quote that went something like "If you live each day as if it was your
last, someday you'll most certainly be right." It made an impression on
me, and since then, for the past 33 years, I have looked in the mirror every
morning and asked myself, "If today were the last day of my life, would I
want to do what I am about to do today?" And whenever the answer has been
"no" for too many days in a row, I know I need to change something.
Remembering that I'll be dead soon is the most important thing I've ever
encountered to help me make the big choices in life, because almost
everything--all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or
failure--these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is
truly important. Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know
to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already
naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart.

About a year ago, I was diagnosed with cancer. I had a
scan at 7:30 in the morning and it clearly showed a tumor on my pancreas. I
didn't even know what a pancreas was. The doctors told me this was almost
certainly a type of cancer that is incurable, and that I should expect to live
no longer than three to six months. My doctor advised me to go home and get my
affairs in order, which is doctors' code for "prepare to die." It
means to try and tell your kids everything you thought you'd have the next ten
years to tell them, in just a few months. It means to make sure that everything
is buttoned up so that it will be as easy as possible for your family. It means
to say your goodbyes.

I lived with that diagnosis all day. Later that evening I had a biopsy
where they stuck an endoscope down my throat, through my stomach into my
intestines, put a needle into my pancreas and got a few cells from the tumor. I
was sedated but my wife, who was there, told me that when they viewed the cells
under a microscope, the doctor started crying, because it turned out to be a
very rare form of pancreatic cancer that is curable with surgery. I had the
surgery and, thankfully, I am fine now.

This was the closest I've been to facing death, and I
hope it's the closest I get for a few more decades. Having lived through it, I
can now say this to you with a bit more certainty than when death was a useful
but purely intellectual concept. No one wants to die, even people who want to
go to Heaven don't want to die to get there, and yet, death is the destination
we all share. No one has ever escaped it. And that is as it should be, because
death is very likely the single best invention of life. It's life's change
agent; it clears out the old to make way for the new. right now, the new is
you. But someday, not too long from now, you will gradually become the old and
be cleared away. Sorry to be so dramatic, but it's quite true. Your time is
limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life. Don't be trapped by
dogma, which is living with the results of other people's thinking. Don't let
the noise of others' opinions drown out your own inner voice, heart and
intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything
else is secondary.

When I was young, there was an amazing publication
called The Whole Earth Catalogue, which was one of the bibles of my generation.
It was created by a fellow named Stuart Brand not far from here in Menlo Park,
and he brought it to life with his poetic touch. This was in the late Sixties,
before personal computers and desktop publishing, so it was all made with
typewriters, scissors, and Polaroid cameras. it was sort of like Google in
paperback form thirty-five years before Google came along. I was idealistic,
overflowing with neat tools and great notions. Stuart and his team put out
several issues of the The Whole Earth Catalogue, and then when it had run its
course, they put out a final issue. It was the mid-Seventies and I was your
age. On the back cover of their final issue was a photograph of an early
morning country road, the kind you might find yourself hitchhiking on if you
were so adventurous. Beneath were the words, "Stay hungry, stay
foolish." It was their farewell message as they signed off. "Stay
hungry, stay foolish." And I have always wished that for myself, and now,
as you graduate to begin anew, I wish that for you. Stay hungry, stay
foolish.

Thank you all, very much.”

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坐灰机

2011-10-28T13:00:00Z

本来这次十一旅游是想来回都坐动车的，1300km的路程睡一晚就到了，省钱还不耽误事（北京人请自觉后面加一个“儿”字），可那火车票真他妈难买，光排队就排死你，而且往往排到你的时候售票员两手一摊说，票没了。所以两口子商量后决定来回都坐灰机，因为俺们两个都是国航会员，来回都订了国航的灰机。

去的时候还不错，除了登机口改了一次灰机小点空中颠簸点饭菜难吃点，其他都挺好。

主要说说回来。

本来灰机是19:15起飞的，预计21:00到浦东机场，我想接下去坐地铁，一小时后就能在家洗个热水澡，然后舒舒服服睡觉，第二天上班。然而我们到了机场被告知：航班被延迟，并且，何时起飞未定，原因未知。当时起降地点均天气超好，无雨无风。我当时还想，难道当年的东航罢飞事件要重演？我第一反应是马上改签，无论如何我一定要及时赶回去啊！可当时已经没有其他航班了，咋办？只能等，MP3听一首“世界第一等”吧。中间有乘客想起来：回家的地铁，机场大巴都没有了，届时要打车回市区，打车费用最少也要200多元，这完全是国航单方面延误航班造成了，能报销么？接着有不少乘客响应，去跟机场方面交涉，均被告知：延误4小时以内，是没有任何赔偿滴！大家听了气愤异常，更有甚者跑来跟我商量说：我们大家都留在飞机上不走，直到赔偿为止，如何？我说你吃饱了是伐？为了200块都不睡觉了啊！这么折腾下去大家到上海也都奄奄一息了，要钱不要命啊，坐次飞机容易么，搞什么飞机啊！那些人看绝大多数人不响应，也只得作罢。我后来打电话给国航服务热线想寻求帮忙，打了六七个电话，不是忙音就是跟你瞎白活，说这是不属我们管，给你转个线，结果就是无人接听。后来终于有个人听完了我的陈述，说：我们现在只负责接听不负责处理，你留下号码，7个工作日内给你答复，我辛辛苦苦等了七个工作日，直到我写这篇文章为止（已远超7个工作日），没有任何电话（而且我的手机是有来电提醒的，国航压根就没打过！！），这完全是骗人，这种狗屎做法，这是国航吗？？

两个小时过去了（俺们两部iphone也都基本玩的没电了，真他妈不经用），终于被告知：灰机将在40分钟后起飞。大家“谢主隆恩”，能安全回家就万幸了，还期待什么呢？

一家航空公司有个晚点很正常，作为乘客也可以理解，但是面对这样一个严重晚点的事故，中国国航作为一家国际大公司，造成客户的损失，应该赔的就赔，能有什么好推脱的呢？（乘客要求回家打车费用是最为直接的损失，半夜回家没有休息好影响第二天工作，价值几何？？）更扯淡的是，对自己的承诺都不能做到，以后广大民众怎么相信你？？

以上所述纯属真实事件，如有雷同，不胜荣幸！

-----by Sonne

2011/10/28

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上海人-2

2011-09-29T02:54:00Z

因为前几年写过一篇“上海人”，为了不让我的博客里有重名的文章，这篇只能命名“上海人-2”（最好念做“上海人TWO”）

前个礼拜的一天晚上我从学校跑完步回家，路遇一个东北口音的中年男子，他有点焦急地问我：“小兄弟，坐那个中山公园的地铁怎么走？”，我仔细向他描述了具体的走法和旁边的建筑物特征，还陪他走了一小段，直到我觉得他很清楚怎么走为止。临别前，他很感激的说：“小兄弟，谢谢你哦，你真不像上海人。”（前面走路聊天时问过我是不是上海人），我说不用客气，我就是上海人，为什么不像？他说，就是不像，上海人不是你这样的。我说不对，你印象中的那种上海人不是真正的上海人，大多数上海人都是我这样的。你会慢慢感受到的！祝你在上海过的愉快！

说实话，说我“不像上海人“时，我真有些不高兴，当然，我知道他是想夸我，可我明明就是上海人，夸人哪有那么夸的？

其实我在北方呆的那几年里，我很清楚外省市的人们心中“上海人”是怎么样的一个形象，但这是十几二十年前的形象，现在的地域特征已经几乎消失，特别是我们七零八零后这一代开始，也大都受过高等教育，不再是那种东北小品里的所谓“上海人”形象（好像任何时候都不是那样的形象，不知道创作那些小品的人是否是上海人，是否在上海长期生活过，体验过？？）

比较欣慰的是：这几年已经越来越少地看到各大论坛关于“地域”话题的相互攻击了，当然少部分人（只能说素质比较低了）依然我行我素，用个例去否定整个一个地区的人，首先就是逻辑混乱的表现。

希望我以后的“上海人3”写的更正面和谐吧!

-----by Sonne

2011/9/29

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关于Iphone 4 如何用itunes备份短信等设置

2011-08-19T07:14:00Z

手机用了近一年，home键有点不好使，于是乎拿到苹果维修点维修，让我惊讶的是，客服MM只是按了几下home键，然后用电筒照了照耳机插孔，就说：“先生，您的手机在保修期内，可以给您你换个新的，不过屏幕贴膜就没了哦。”然后开始填单子，我起初还以为是换个新的home键，谁料，换的几乎是整个手机：屏幕、主板、电池、四周的不锈钢边框、所有的按键，除了背后那块背板，所有的东西都是新的！不到五分钟，我就拿到了几乎全新的一部iphone4，插上sim卡，签字，走人，全程都是免费（当然后来自己买了个屏幕贴膜花了50元）。

接下来面对的是备份的问题，我手机最重要的数据是邮件，照片和联系人，短信可有可无。而邮件照片联系人我电脑都有备份，所以换机前删除了所有机器内数据并恢复出厂设置。

但是，我这里要介绍的是，itunes其实已经帮你做好了这一切！

因为我等于是换了一部新的机器（因为IMEI号变了），正好体验了itunes的备份功能。需要说明的是，之前我只是正常的连接手机和电脑，正常同步，也就是说，备份是itunes自动为你做的，无需专门的设置。

新手机连上电脑后，提示注册，我输入原来的apple id，就跳出来一个框，问是要恢复原有设置还是把该手机作为新手机同步，我选择恢复原有。接着，手机就自动开始从原有备份恢复，恢复的内容包括所有在app store购买的程序，短信，音乐，照片，联系人，等。一切都是自动的，就是时间有点长，同步完20多G的音乐已经三个多小时了。完成后，包括原有自定义的铃声、桌面等都已经恢复了，唯一不能恢复的只有桌面，100多个程序软件费了我好久才整理好，另外：邮件要重新输入密码才能使用。其他诸如“新浪新闻”里面的个人“偏好设置”都给我保留下来了，真好！

现在新手机用的感觉跟原来完全一样了，唯一不同的是屏幕亮了很多，原来的手机被我划的不成样子了。

最后有个不解不知谁能解答：苹果为什么不单单维修那个键，而是换整套新的？还有，换下来的机器，是不是翻新机的源头？

-------by Sonne

2011/8/19

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你的眼神

2011-07-26T06:49:00Z

我忘不了那个姑娘的眼神。

那是今年春节后的一天，我和Cynthia还有另外两位朋友一起去海南玩。有天晚上我们去吃露天的海鲜大排档，席间，有个大约20来岁的小姑娘抱着一个吉他到我旁边，有点害羞的问：”大哥，要听一曲吗？”边说便递上一张A4大小的纸，我瞄了一眼，纸上写着一些歌曲的名字，最后写着“每首十元”，因为我和朋友谈兴正浓，就说不要不要。那个姑娘听到后好像愣了一下，并没有走，而是用近乎期盼的眼神看着我，我一下觉得她有点可怜，忍不住也看了她一眼：年轻但是有些许消瘦的身体，肤色黝黑，穿着很普通的小花格衬衫，背着一个与她不太相称的中号民谣吉他。我有点想让她唱，又觉得刚才已经那么坚定地说了不要，又不想扰了谈兴，就说：”我们不要，你去其他地方吧。”那姑娘又迟疑了一下，慢慢的转过身，离我们而去。我们则继续聊天，喝酒，吹牛。

又过了十来分钟，我脑里总是浮现着那双企盼的眼睛，总觉得有些别扭。不知为什么，我突然对朋友说：“我想去找那位姑娘，叫她来唱一曲。”我边说边起身，朝身后刚才她走的方向走去，我心想：我见到她一定要先跟她说对不起，我那声略显不耐烦的“不要”，一定深深地伤了她的心。可是，不管我怎么寻找，我依然没有找到她的身影。我带着遗憾回到饭桌，因为我的疏忽，我伤害了一颗期盼的心。

从那以后，我一直告诉自己：在自己力所能及的范围内，尽可能地帮助身边需要帮助的人，一句话，一个眼神，十元钱，这对我们并不算什么，但是对于某些人，却可能是一次莫大的鼓舞！

我会一直这么要求自己，因为，我忘不了那个姑娘的眼神。

-----by Sonne

2011/7/26

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因为是朋友

2011-07-25T07:49:00Z

前天休息日，我和一帮老同事去钱柜唱歌，Cynthia也闲不住，去徐家汇看望一个好久没见面的朋友，回来时带回来两件很薄的衣服，说从她那里买的（朋友做服装和化妆品的生意），我一看面料是很差的那种，又是没见过的品牌（也许我孤陋寡闻），问：“多少钱？”Cynthia说：“六百块。”我一惊，因为我感觉那两件衣服远不值这个钱，感觉上二十来块就能买到的那种。Cynthia说：“我也觉得不值，她拼命让我试，说我穿的好看，又是相识多年的朋友，我不好意思，就买了。”

“我觉得”，我说，“当她向你推荐这衣服的那一刻，她已没把你当朋友了。”

因为是朋友，这是一个非常简单的理由。为了朋友，我可以送给她600块钱，什么都不要，但是，明明很便宜很差的东西，把它说成好东西并卖给朋友，我认为这是不可以的。

我是一名职业销售，我深知在销售的过程中，确实需要用到一些语言的技巧，或者是一点其他的“手段”，但这都是在不损害对方利益的前提下（客户也是需要你的东西才会购买），更不会用到朋友身上，我也从来没有对任何身边的朋友推销过任何我销售的产品。遇到我真正觉得好的产品，我可以送给他/她，但不会推销，更不会利用朋友的关系高价推销。

后来和Cynthia聊了这个事，另一位朋友Joanna看了衣服后也证实了这个衣服的质量，Cynthia顿时觉得有受骗的感觉，我说好吧，就算我们认清了一个人，六百块算个教训吧！

“不是六百，我还从她那买了一些精油……”

“啊？多少钱？”，我问道。

“她说这个精油很贵，所以是按’滴’来计算的，我一共买了两瓶……”

“@#$%^&*……”

-------by Sonne

2011/7/25

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试驾凯迪拉克SRX

2011-07-22T05:40:00Z

前几天公司同事新买了辆凯迪拉克SRX顶配版，看着停车场上晶晶发亮的车身，超级大的全景天窗，20寸轮毂，实在手痒，问同事拿了钥匙直接上路，一听有新车坐，财务部几个MM跟着一起钻进了车。

在公司二楼按了钥匙的遥控启动，不知是不是有干扰，按了好几下才听到车子发动的声音，把一旁的保安吓了一跳：这车子咋无人驾驶呢？

这车子绝对够man，外形和内饰都延续了凯迪拉克一贯的粗线条，导航屏幕是从前面操控台上“升”起来的，仪表盘有超大的数字时速显示。车子发动后，却找不到手刹，我想：这难不倒我，毕竟我的越越也是用脚刹滴，然而低头一看，脚刹位置只有一个汽车前引擎盖的开关，我一下明白了：这车是用电子手刹的，果然在换挡杆左边看到了“P”的标志，用右手食指轻轻拨一下，仪表盘的P字母消失，换挡杆轻轻拉到D档，一松油门，车子缓缓起步。因为是新车，我不敢太“蹂躏”，缓缓加了油门，没有很特别的感觉，车子很稳重地提速，并不是很快（车子实在太重啦），20寸大脚过减震带没有明显“咯噔”一下的感觉，基本还是很平稳，车子隔音非常好，发动机的声音几乎可以忽略，我慢慢加油门，基本换挡是在2200转左右，不看转速表几乎感觉不到。速度到70时，我轻踩刹车，咦？车子没反应？再深一点，车子稍稍停止加速，原来刹车那么重？开惯刹车灵敏的越越后，我非常不适应这样的刹车调校，原来我基本把脚搁到刹车上车子就减速了，这下要用力踩才缓缓减速，喜欢跟车的朋友要注意了，一定不能跟得太紧，否则很容易盯人家PP的哦（虽然人家一般都撞不过俺们）。其他方面很好上手，方向盘非常轻，两边反光镜超级大，坐姿高，视野非常好，赞一个。后视镜比我的越越还小，基本只看到后排坐着的MM。

开了几公里绕了一个大圈回到公司，依依不舍地挂到P档拔下钥匙，这次没拉高速，只算过了小瘾，回到公司跟同事说：等到了3000km，我给你拉高速啊！

-----Sonne

2011/7/22

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七年不痒

2011-06-10T08:19:00Z

七年前的今天,也就是2004年6月10日的傍晚，在我生命中第一次见到Cynthia，从那一刻起，我就爱上了这位美丽、善良、可爱的女孩。我们彼此的爱一直在延续着，我相信，这份爱，一定会一直伴随到我们走到生命的终结。

亲爱的，我至今仍记得当时我们见面后的每一个动作与每一个细节，那晚我送你回家后回到自己住处，已是凌晨一点多钟，我却一直难以入睡，你的每个举动和每句话都一直在我的脑海，你那时也没睡，因为我给你的短信你马上就回复了我，就这样，你来我往，我们一直发了很久，到最后，都告诉对方，快睡觉吧，晚安说了很多遍，可谁都不愿意先停止回复，最后可能实在太累了，你在梦里伴着我，我睡着了。

从那以后，我们就开始约会，牵手，拥抱，接吻，一切来得那么快，却又是那么的自然。认识你以后，我的心态，我的人生观有了翻天覆地的变化，在日常生活中，我以更加豁达、宽容的心对待自己身边所有的人：家人、同事、朋友、同学、客户、路人甲乙丙丁。如果说我原来的境界是“我爱我自己和我的家人”，现在就是“我爱我身边所有的人”。每次看报纸、看电视、跟朋友交流、上课，对人生的观念我们都是惊人地一致，很多时候我们会相视一笑，我感觉自己更深地理解了“心心相印”这个词，这种感觉真的好美妙！

我这辈子永远忘不了，去年夏天，在我人生最低谷的时刻，我最最爱的父母对我有了最大的误解，我伤心透顶，此时，除了你，这个世界上没有任何其他人知道内情和理解我。你也明白，我越爱他们一分，我的伤痛就越多一分，但是，我又不愿意他们再受更多的痛楚。而此时，更多的人不明就里，但却卷了进来，加上一些好事的人们，事情变得越来越糟，我深爱的父亲几乎跟我断绝关系，我伤心落泪，不停地咳嗽，痰里竟然有了血。我想尽一切办法，却没能处理好如此重要之事！你一直在我身边，陪伴着我，安慰着我，我那时明白，一个精神支柱是多么的重要，如果那时你离我而去，我也许真的会崩溃。事情至今仍没有完满的结局，但是，我以不敢奢望老天，上天赐给了我那么完美的一个你，受这样的委屈，我应该要忍。我只希望，上天能让他们明白我的内心，别无其他奢望。

有人说，两个人在一起以后，三年和七年是两道坎，过了这两道坎，以后生活就会一帆风顺。这第一道坎是生活习惯上的磨合，第二道坎则是观念、理念上的磨合。亲爱的，我们彼此都已非常了解，我们今后在一起的道路一定会越走越平坦：）

亲爱的，谢谢你陪伴我走过了人生中最美好的这七年时光，我们今后还有七十年要走呢：）我们现在面临的困难还有很多（当然也算不上真正多大的困难，算暂时没有实现的目标吧），不过古人说：“家和万事兴”，我们齐心协力，我们的目标一定会实现哦：）

亲爱的，和你在一起，我每天都是那么快乐，认识你，真的是上天赐我的最好的礼物：）

我爱你,亲爱的,让我们永远相伴：）

----by Sonne

于2011/6/10 ，我们的纪念日：）

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最快乐的事

2011-06-08T07:51:00Z

最近参加一次演讲会，有人在台上问了一个问题：你最近感觉最快乐的一件事是什么？大家在下面开始议论起来：有人说，我能来这里听演讲觉得很快乐；有人说，最近股票上涨了我很快乐；有人说，我活着就很快乐。而我在此刻想起了前些天发生在地铁口的一件事。

那是一个下雨天的傍晚，天色已暗，加上又湿又闷的天气，路上行人脚步匆匆，都想着能早点回到温暖的家中。我和Cynthia在地铁口碰面，正准备打伞回家，看到地铁口有位老妈妈在卖白兰花，Cynthia对我说：“这不是你最喜欢的白兰花吗？我们买一个啊！”。是啊，我从小就很喜欢白兰花的香味，淡雅、清新却不俗气。于是Cynthia问老妈妈：阿姨，这花怎么卖啊？老妈妈慈祥地微笑，用非常和蔼的口气回答：“两块钱一个啊，宝宝。”“哇！老妈妈居然叫我宝宝”，而且那个语气听起来真的特别舒服，Cynthia一下好感动（我也跟着感动）：在这样的天气，头发花白的老妈妈应该在家里享受天伦之乐的，然而她却蹲在这里卖花，而且从她的表情、语言根本看不出对生活的半点埋怨，她应该是非常快乐地生活着。她的那句话，让我们的心情在这闷燥的天气中一下变得快乐了许多。我们于是给了老妈妈十元钱，说道：“阿姨，买一朵，不要找了，早点回家啊！”。老妈妈还是用那温暖的声音回答：“谢谢啊，宝宝！”哈！买了一朵小花，我们大家的心情都变得如此之好！

快乐是可以传染的，你给了别人快乐，自己也会变得快乐。我们的生活其实是如此的简单！

所以，我的回答是：给予别人快乐，是我最快乐的事！希望我可以一直保持这样美好的心态哦：）

朋友，你最近感觉最快乐的一件事是什么呢？

----by Sonne

2011/6/8

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奔驰和宝马

2011-06-05T05:42:00Z

我一直很喜欢这两家公司,但是上个月,在同样的场合下,两家公司完全不同的做法,让我改变了以往对宝马公司的看法。

那是在上海车展上,先是在宝马展台,一款红色的新款Z4跑车正在展台展示。那天是对外开放之前的媒体日,观众很少,我拉了拉车门刚想进去感觉一下车子的内饰,一旁的宝马MM看到我,以迅雷不及掩耳到铃儿响叮当之势拉住我,说道：“先生,这车子不能进去的,你可以拍照。” 我刚想说：这车展不就是你们公司把你们最好的产品完完全全地展示给观众吗？这时对面一个胖老外已经拉开了车门，半个身子已经探了进去，那MM又以迅雷不及掩耳到铃儿响叮当之势飞奔到车子另一边（MM还穿着高跟鞋，居然还能跑那么快，真是佩服），以惊惶之语气叫到：“唉唉，这个不能进去”，老外用诧异的眼神看了看她，MM大概意识到自己应该说英文，用断断续续极不标准的英语说：”this, can not, come in, sorry…”一边伸手去抓那个老外，这时我明显地看到那个老外脸上那奇怪的表情，我心里同样地不是滋味。NND，不让碰还来参加个JB车展啊？我愤然离去，那老外也摇着头走向其他展位。

随后不久，我来到奔驰展位，这时全场唯一的双层展位，而且二楼也摆了好几辆车，所有的服务人员，包括清洁卫生的服务生全部都是老外，而且都是面带微笑，很有亲和力。我来到一辆S350旁，一旁的销售人员亲切地问我：“先生需要什么帮助？”并递上了果汁。我摸了摸车门和玻璃，又拉开车门，销售人员马上用手挡住车门上方，示意我进去。我同时注意到，有个小伙子轻轻用擦布在我刚才摸过的地方抹了抹。

因为自己本身对车子很感兴趣，加上刚才在宝马展台的“不爽”的负面效应，这次聊天我感觉非常愉快，甚至想着自己将来如果换车，一定要是奔驰。

同样参加车展，面对同样的客户，两家豪华汽车品牌公司居然是截然不同的态度：一家大气，亲和，温暖；一家小气到家，服务态度也不行。诚然，每家公司有每家公司自己的企业文化，但是，像这次宝马公司的做法，我实在无法认同，我也无法接受有这样企业文化的公司所生产的任何产品。而奔驰公司则体现了一个大品牌公司应有的气度（当然从品牌上奔驰确实要比宝马高半个档），在未接触两家的产品前，高低已分。

-----by Sonne

2011/6/1

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